I highly recommend seeing the Crazy Horse Paris Show at the MGM if you're in Vegas.
I'll be at this amazing fashion show, by these dancers/choreographers, in a matter of minutes...
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Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Fashion Week Las Vegas
Just checking in from Fashion Week in Las Vegas! We've seen some awesome new styles I can't wait to tell you about. The next big thing to watch for at Cherie's Closet is the new Chica Rica Jelly Swimwear Lace Trimmed Bikini styles and also Men's Underwear from Intymen and Goodevil.(*The Goodevil Underwear model is Levi Poulter)
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Vida sashays into L.A. Fashion Week 2010.
There's nothing like a few Luxury Sex Toys to make it a real party!
Vida sashays into L.A. Fashion Week 2010.
Vida sashays into L.A. Fashion Week 2010.
How To Do BDSM 101
Ok, so you're tired of a vanilla sex life and want to dip your toes into the world of kink? Or maybe you've been harboring a secret BDSM fantasy? We can help you get started!
BDSM commonly is understood to stand for Bondage, Domination/Discipline, Sadism/Submission, Masochism. It is the act of controlling or giving up control during sex. And introducing extreme sensations during sex. It doesn't need to involve pain and degradation although it can, and it can also be made appear that way.
The first thing to consider is what you and your partner are currently comfortable with. Is there any sensation you hate? I hate being tickled, so for me, anything that tickles is absolutely unacceptable. I also despise the cold. So any of that is off the table as well. Once you have an idea of your sensation likes and dislikes you can begin to incorporate Sensation Play (BDSM) into your lovemaking.
Taking away the sense of sight heightens the other 4 senses. A good quality blindfold is a very good idea. The anticipation of what is about to happen is a key element in arousal. Be sure to avoid the sensations your lover dislikes. Trust is paramount when you decide to relinquish control. A safe word helps establish trust. Choose a word or phrase not commonly used in sex. You wouldn't want to be in the throes of passion, playing a reluctant lover, and have your partner stop the sensation and ruin the moment. You also don't want the safe-word to ruin the mood. So something generic like "Cookies", "Carrots", "Potato" work well. You can also use a stronger word like "Seriously" when telling your partner it's too much, as in "Stop, Seriously".
Once you're comfortable being blindfolded during regular sex-play, you can add the sensations. Some common sensations can be created using paddles, floggers, whips, crops, wheels, mitts, gloves, ticklers, restraints, suction, clamps, positioning, electricity.
The following is a brief breakdown of the types of toys used in BDSM play.
Of course maybe you're just looking to learn to be a little more aggressive or want to look the part. This book is a great place to start. And here are some fun outfits to complete the BDSM session.
I hope this helps clear up the uses and terminology commonly found in BDSM play. Feel free to comment on your experiences with starting BDSM!
BDSM commonly is understood to stand for Bondage, Domination/Discipline, Sadism/Submission, Masochism. It is the act of controlling or giving up control during sex. And introducing extreme sensations during sex. It doesn't need to involve pain and degradation although it can, and it can also be made appear that way.
The first thing to consider is what you and your partner are currently comfortable with. Is there any sensation you hate? I hate being tickled, so for me, anything that tickles is absolutely unacceptable. I also despise the cold. So any of that is off the table as well. Once you have an idea of your sensation likes and dislikes you can begin to incorporate Sensation Play (BDSM) into your lovemaking.
Taking away the sense of sight heightens the other 4 senses. A good quality blindfold is a very good idea. The anticipation of what is about to happen is a key element in arousal. Be sure to avoid the sensations your lover dislikes. Trust is paramount when you decide to relinquish control. A safe word helps establish trust. Choose a word or phrase not commonly used in sex. You wouldn't want to be in the throes of passion, playing a reluctant lover, and have your partner stop the sensation and ruin the moment. You also don't want the safe-word to ruin the mood. So something generic like "Cookies", "Carrots", "Potato" work well. You can also use a stronger word like "Seriously" when telling your partner it's too much, as in "Stop, Seriously".
Once you're comfortable being blindfolded during regular sex-play, you can add the sensations. Some common sensations can be created using paddles, floggers, whips, crops, wheels, mitts, gloves, ticklers, restraints, suction, clamps, positioning, electricity.
The following is a brief breakdown of the types of toys used in BDSM play.
- Paddles can be rubbed on the skin to soothe, or used to strike skin, resulting in a flush of blood to the surface of the skin. Stencil paddles should be laid against the skin and the exposed skin should be struck with the hand, to leave the desired mark.
- Whips/Floggers can be used to strike the skin or be dragged across the surface of the skin. They range in materials from suede, to rubber, to fur/fluff. Some handles are made to be inserted vaginally/anally and may vibrate.
- Crops are similar to paddles.
- Wheels are rolled along the surface of the skin. Most are spiked and sensation varies with the pressure applied.
- Mitts/Gloves can be metal-spiked or fur or rubber-spiked. When the skin is stroked and massaged it becomes sensitive or soothed. Rubber-spiked gloves feel very intriguing when used with lube or massage oil.
- Ticklers can be made of many materials, and meant to be dragged across the skin lightly.
- Restraints come in many styles. The most common is furry handcuffs. However, velcro, plain ropes, silk ties and even latex bondage tape are widely used. These Cuffs are meant for the shower. Also popular, is the Bondage Bar (video demo below)
- Pumps/Suction can be applied on any skin surface. It causes blood to rush to the surface of the skin. Generally used on nipples or genital areas as they are most sensitive.
- Clamps can also be applied most anywhere. The sensation is two-fold, once as the clamps are applied and then again as the blood rushes to the surface and then blood returns to the area. Some clamps are weighted, or jeweled and decorative.
- Positioning Aids are used as a way to restrain and also a way to support different positions not generally able to be done.
- Electricity is another way to bring blood to the surface. Some devices are meant to be inserted and some are meant to be applied to the skins surface.
Of course maybe you're just looking to learn to be a little more aggressive or want to look the part. This book is a great place to start. And here are some fun outfits to complete the BDSM session.
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| Leather Lace-Up Bustier |
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| Belted Boots |
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| Studded Skirt |
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| Ribbon Shorts |
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| Boots with crop |
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| Collar |
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| Leather Strap Teddy |
I hope this helps clear up the uses and terminology commonly found in BDSM play. Feel free to comment on your experiences with starting BDSM!
Friday, February 11, 2011
How To Alter the Taste of Semen
A tip that everyone SHOULD know (but many don't) is how to alter semen to be more pleasant tasting. You may have encountered semen that tastes bitter and "bleachy". This is due in part to the alkalinity in the body's secretions. Let's face it, what you put into your body will be recycled back out.
There are several ways to alter the taste of semen through diet changes. The very quickest, easiest and most basic is to simply drink PINEAPPLE JUICE. It can be canned or bottled, fresh or frozen. Within approximately 24 hrs, you'll notice a distinct taste change in the semen. It may become sweeter, but it may not. What will happen is the bleachy, alkaline taste will be neutralized by the acid from the pineapple juice.
So skip the wine and beer at dinner, and grab some of this amazing tropical nectar. Your significant other will appreciate it, and you'll reap the benefits ten-fold! And as always, keep drinking plenty of water. What's good for the semen is good for the whole body!
There are several ways to alter the taste of semen through diet changes. The very quickest, easiest and most basic is to simply drink PINEAPPLE JUICE. It can be canned or bottled, fresh or frozen. Within approximately 24 hrs, you'll notice a distinct taste change in the semen. It may become sweeter, but it may not. What will happen is the bleachy, alkaline taste will be neutralized by the acid from the pineapple juice.
So skip the wine and beer at dinner, and grab some of this amazing tropical nectar. Your significant other will appreciate it, and you'll reap the benefits ten-fold! And as always, keep drinking plenty of water. What's good for the semen is good for the whole body!
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
How To Give Oral - Male 101
A question I am asked very frequently through the years, by customers as well as many of my friends, is "How do I give a Blow Job?"
Giving oral sex, whether on men or women, is not a "paint-by-numbers" task. There is no one sure way that is the best. For every different guy that is out there, there will be that many ways of giving a guy pleasure. I'll talk a little bit about a few different techniques. As well as give some tips that will add variety.
The only rule that is Absolute, is this:
PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR GUY'S RESPONSE TO YOUR TECHNIQUE.
As you're giving head (oral sex) listen for moans, feel his body tense and move. Pay attention to what you just did, repeat it and see if you get the same response, then memorize what you did, so you'll remember it next time. Oral sex is a little bit instinct and a little bit trial and error. Just because he liked it last time, doesn't always mean he's enjoying it this time. Guys have different moods too! Also, ask him during the blow job, if he wants it faster or slower, also ask if he'd like it harder or gentler.
And Guys, if you're reading this, PLEASE WASH THOROUGHLY AND SHAVE FIRST!! Being freshly cleaned isn't optional, especially if you'd like a repeat performance....
As is the case with most new sexual positions, techniques, a light and easy touch to start is a good idea. Gently grasp the shaft and stroke it a little. And remember to go slow and steady. Eventually you can increase speed and roughness as he may desire. Your mouth and touch should be gentle, but firm enough not to tickle him. Be aware also, that clear seminal fluid (not sperm) will leak out of the tip while you're giving oral sex. This is a big sign that he's very turned on and may be ready to cum.
First, lick your lips or apply chapstick (for your comfort) and gently slide the lick the head, then slide the head of his penis in your mouth. AVOID THE TEETH. Unless your guy expresses pleasure at a light nibble, he very likely doesn't enjoy sharp teeth on his cock. The head is the most sensitive part (like your clitoris). Imagine you're eating an ice-pop that's melting. Eventually, work your way down the shaft with a loose mouth and tighten your lips around it as you drag your tongue and mouth upwards along the shaft. Use the tip of your tongue to pay attention to the spot along the underside of his shaft right where it meets the head. This is one of the main nerves in the penis and source of incredible pleasure for most guys. Try to avoid too much saliva. The motion of your tongue caressing his penis is the main objective 90% of the time. Once in awhile you can "go deep" and try to fit as much of his cock into your mouth as you can. But it's difficult to breath while suppressing the gag reflex, so don't worry if that part doesn't last long.
Another technique is to place your mouth on his shaft like corn on the cob, or a harmonica. Then, using some tongue, slide your mouth along the shaft. Try rotating his shaft slightly as you slide up and down the length of him.
When you really want to intensify his pleasure make your tongue somewhat firm and use it to draw circles around his cock, where the head meets the shaft. At the same time, use your hand to make the head of his cock draw circles around your tongue, as if you're wrapping a ribbon around your tongue. Switch directions and use moderate suction. Suction will pull the blood into his penis and engorge him more. Too much suction is painful and will cause bruising in some cases, so be careful. A good rule to follow is use enough suction to keep your saliva in your mouth.
Now is a good time to discuss his balls. These are sometimes forgotten erotic zones. Handle gently and with care. During the Blow Job, cradle them in your palm while you pet and caress them. Gentle tugging may also feel good. Scraping your fingernails along the sac provides him yet another sensation to enjoy. Gently use your fingers to roll the balls around inside the sac. Be VERY gentle. If he enjoys it, he might want you to kiss and take a ball into your mouth, and gently use your tongue to caress them.
Use your hands to provide additional sensation on the shaft as well. Keep a firm hold of his shaft near the base of his penis, nearly the entire time. Once in awhile let your hands follow your mouth up and down the shaft stroking him while he is in your mouth. Sometimes even gently dragging your nails up his shaft. Also try gently stretching the skin of his penis tightly towards his body away from the head while your mouth and tongue are on the head. This sometimes increases the intensity of the sensation of your mouth.
Another spot to use your hands besides the shaft and balls, is the nifkin or perineum. The Perineum is the spot of skin between the ballsack and the anus. There's a very sensitive spot there that when pressed and massaged increases pleasure dramatically. It's actually his prostate being stimulated. The prostate is the "Male G-Spot". Massaging the perineum during oral sex usually delays and intensifies the orgasm. When you massage the perineum, be certain your hands are soft and smooth, and your fingernails are trimmed with no rough edges. Use firm undulating pressure, with your index finger and also using small circular motions. Slow and steady, like applying lotion, is best, avoid being fast and rough.
In addition to these basic styles of touch, you may also use humming to produce a vibrating sensation.
Remember, he should ALWAYS warn you when he's about to cum, and give you the option of receiving semen in your mouth. (see the article on altering the taste of semen). It's up to you whether to let him cum in your mouth or not. Once the semen is in your mouth, having a washcloth or towel nearby is a delicate way to spit it out if you prefer not to swallow. Some guys may actually feel bad about cumming in your mouth. These are all things you should probably find out ahead of time.
If the idea of giving your guy oral sex isn't enjoyable, here are a few things to make it more interesting.
Giving oral sex, whether on men or women, is not a "paint-by-numbers" task. There is no one sure way that is the best. For every different guy that is out there, there will be that many ways of giving a guy pleasure. I'll talk a little bit about a few different techniques. As well as give some tips that will add variety.
The only rule that is Absolute, is this:
PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR GUY'S RESPONSE TO YOUR TECHNIQUE.
As you're giving head (oral sex) listen for moans, feel his body tense and move. Pay attention to what you just did, repeat it and see if you get the same response, then memorize what you did, so you'll remember it next time. Oral sex is a little bit instinct and a little bit trial and error. Just because he liked it last time, doesn't always mean he's enjoying it this time. Guys have different moods too! Also, ask him during the blow job, if he wants it faster or slower, also ask if he'd like it harder or gentler.
And Guys, if you're reading this, PLEASE WASH THOROUGHLY AND SHAVE FIRST!! Being freshly cleaned isn't optional, especially if you'd like a repeat performance....
As is the case with most new sexual positions, techniques, a light and easy touch to start is a good idea. Gently grasp the shaft and stroke it a little. And remember to go slow and steady. Eventually you can increase speed and roughness as he may desire. Your mouth and touch should be gentle, but firm enough not to tickle him. Be aware also, that clear seminal fluid (not sperm) will leak out of the tip while you're giving oral sex. This is a big sign that he's very turned on and may be ready to cum.
First, lick your lips or apply chapstick (for your comfort) and gently slide the lick the head, then slide the head of his penis in your mouth. AVOID THE TEETH. Unless your guy expresses pleasure at a light nibble, he very likely doesn't enjoy sharp teeth on his cock. The head is the most sensitive part (like your clitoris). Imagine you're eating an ice-pop that's melting. Eventually, work your way down the shaft with a loose mouth and tighten your lips around it as you drag your tongue and mouth upwards along the shaft. Use the tip of your tongue to pay attention to the spot along the underside of his shaft right where it meets the head. This is one of the main nerves in the penis and source of incredible pleasure for most guys. Try to avoid too much saliva. The motion of your tongue caressing his penis is the main objective 90% of the time. Once in awhile you can "go deep" and try to fit as much of his cock into your mouth as you can. But it's difficult to breath while suppressing the gag reflex, so don't worry if that part doesn't last long.
Another technique is to place your mouth on his shaft like corn on the cob, or a harmonica. Then, using some tongue, slide your mouth along the shaft. Try rotating his shaft slightly as you slide up and down the length of him.
When you really want to intensify his pleasure make your tongue somewhat firm and use it to draw circles around his cock, where the head meets the shaft. At the same time, use your hand to make the head of his cock draw circles around your tongue, as if you're wrapping a ribbon around your tongue. Switch directions and use moderate suction. Suction will pull the blood into his penis and engorge him more. Too much suction is painful and will cause bruising in some cases, so be careful. A good rule to follow is use enough suction to keep your saliva in your mouth.
Now is a good time to discuss his balls. These are sometimes forgotten erotic zones. Handle gently and with care. During the Blow Job, cradle them in your palm while you pet and caress them. Gentle tugging may also feel good. Scraping your fingernails along the sac provides him yet another sensation to enjoy. Gently use your fingers to roll the balls around inside the sac. Be VERY gentle. If he enjoys it, he might want you to kiss and take a ball into your mouth, and gently use your tongue to caress them.
Use your hands to provide additional sensation on the shaft as well. Keep a firm hold of his shaft near the base of his penis, nearly the entire time. Once in awhile let your hands follow your mouth up and down the shaft stroking him while he is in your mouth. Sometimes even gently dragging your nails up his shaft. Also try gently stretching the skin of his penis tightly towards his body away from the head while your mouth and tongue are on the head. This sometimes increases the intensity of the sensation of your mouth.
Another spot to use your hands besides the shaft and balls, is the nifkin or perineum. The Perineum is the spot of skin between the ballsack and the anus. There's a very sensitive spot there that when pressed and massaged increases pleasure dramatically. It's actually his prostate being stimulated. The prostate is the "Male G-Spot". Massaging the perineum during oral sex usually delays and intensifies the orgasm. When you massage the perineum, be certain your hands are soft and smooth, and your fingernails are trimmed with no rough edges. Use firm undulating pressure, with your index finger and also using small circular motions. Slow and steady, like applying lotion, is best, avoid being fast and rough.
In addition to these basic styles of touch, you may also use humming to produce a vibrating sensation.
Remember, he should ALWAYS warn you when he's about to cum, and give you the option of receiving semen in your mouth. (see the article on altering the taste of semen). It's up to you whether to let him cum in your mouth or not. Once the semen is in your mouth, having a washcloth or towel nearby is a delicate way to spit it out if you prefer not to swallow. Some guys may actually feel bad about cumming in your mouth. These are all things you should probably find out ahead of time.
If the idea of giving your guy oral sex isn't enjoyable, here are a few things to make it more interesting.
- Sweeten69 alters the taste of semen to make it more enjoyable. Can also be used by women to alter their secretion’s and fluid's taste
- Edible Body Paint This is my personal favorite. It's made from real freeze dried food, and doesn't have any chemical aftertaste at all. The strawberry is especially delicious. Paint it on his cock, let it dry, then simply lick it all off. It tastes like jam!!
- Mints These provide pleasant taste plus numbing for you, and a cool tingling sensation for him. Eat them before during and after Oral Sex. For a more intense sensation, you can use altoids or Riccola throat drops too!
- Edible Body Dust If you prefer a milder flavor, body dust gives a hint of taste/smell and provides a different texture, close your eyes and using just taste and smell, try to remove all the dust from all over his groin with your mouth and tongue.
Along with the tricks and tips above, you may also include vibrating toys while giving head. A hands-free way to do this is with a vibrating cock ring. You can also use the basic bullet and play with it along his balls and on his perineum.
If you're still not confident of your skills, buy a Popsicle similar to the cherry-pineapple flavored "Big Stick" and practice!
♥ GUYS: If you have anything to add or modify we'd love to hear your comments!! Click "review", below, to add your comments, thoughts and ideas.
If you're still not confident of your skills, buy a Popsicle similar to the cherry-pineapple flavored "Big Stick" and practice!
♥ GUYS: If you have anything to add or modify we'd love to hear your comments!! Click "review", below, to add your comments, thoughts and ideas.
How To Use a Cock Ring 101
This week we've received 2 emails and a phone call asking for a better explanation of cock rings. So I figured more of you likely want to know as well. I'll explain it from the male's benefit perspective first, then the female's. Then I'll discuss how to wear them.
The cock ring's design is to retain blood in the shaft of the penis. There are many different reasons for this. The most common ones are because it feels good, and to maintain an erection. It feels good because of the tightness and pressure. You're simply more sensitive when your engorged with blood. If you wear it around your shaft and balls at the same time, your orgasm will be larger and more intense. You also tend to last a little longer.
The other reason is the most common. By restricting the blood's ability to leave the penis, you get and maintain an erection easier and longer. Your shaft also increases in girth slightly. Most men have "off-nights" where you're distracted but not disinterested. Also, as they get older their erections become less reliable. A cock ring can be used with a pump in the event of serious impotence. Some guys simply prefer to stay hard and keep having sex until their partner is satisfied. A cock ring allows them to maintain the erection after their own climax until their body is ready for the second round.
As a female, there are two reasons I enjoy using a cock ring during sex. It causes rippled veins to emerge along the shaft, which feels really really nice, and also I can tell a difference in girth and firmness. A firmer cock might more accurately hit the G-spot and other sensitive areas inside the vagina. The other reason I like cock rings, is THEY CAN VIBRATE. Make no mistake guys, girls like vibration. And the vibrations are mutual! A female can grind on the vibrating bullet on the cock ring, or simply enjoy your shaft vibrating inside (although it isn't very strong on the shaft).
By wearing a vibrating cock ring, you just turned yourself into the best sex toy ever!
Now for the technical part....How to wear a cock ring.
There are many sizes and shapes of cock rings, made of many different materials. The most common is a simple jelly ring that stretches to 4 times it's original size LIKE THIS. Don't be afraid to experiment until you find one that works for you. Basic cock rings are relatively inexpensive. Smooth, nubby, rippled are all textures that may or may not matter. Depending on where you'll place the ring, you may want a larger size. You can wear the ring around the base of the shaft next to your body, or around the balls and shaft at the same time, again worn as close to the body as possible. (like a penis bouquet if you will) If you're really concerned about size and fit, try a LASSO. Rubber styles LIKE THIS will be more rigid and less stretchy. And there are METAL RINGS as well for a very rigid fit. These need to be put on while still flaccid.
This is a good time to mention "MANSCAPING". If you haven't gotten in the habit of shaving your penis and balls, now is a good time to start. Your partner will appreciate it and you'll have less hairs to catch in the "rubber band". Avoid lube at first. Lube will only make the cock ring slippery and harder to handle if you're new at wearing it. You can wear it over the condom, or under.
Ok, first start out with as much of an erection as possible. For some men, this is after a bit of foreplay or even the pump. Then take the cock ring in both hands and stretch it WIDE in a circle, to fit over your shaft (or shaft and balls as the case may be). You may have your partner help you if you're uncomfortable. Release SLOWLY and gently (I can't stress this enough) until it is resting firmly against your skin. Now grasp the shaft furthest from your body in one hand, and use the other to stretch and inch the ring down close to your body nice and snug. These are designed pretty durable, so if you're afraid of stretching it too much, then, before sex, play with how much stretch and give your cock ring has, so you'll get a feel for it's capacity. Once you're done having sex, slide a finger on each hand under each side of the cock ring and stretch it out away from your penis. Remove the ring from your shaft and wash the cock ring with Antibacterial Toy Cleaner.
Some cock rings come with small nubs to hold onto LIKE THIS, but they're not necessary, just convenient. If your cock ring has 2 small nubs next to each other, these straddle the main nerve that runs along the underside of your penis. Some cock rings come with a strand of nubs attached like a tail. These are for anal stimulation (either partner).
I hope this helped explain the use of a cock ring and you all understand it better than before. If anyone would like to add any comments regarding their experiences, please feel free.
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